HOW TO KEEP ROMANCE ALIVE AFTER MARRIAGE

It has been observed that as few years set in the romance in marriage starts taking a form of habit .we take our spouse as an inevitable presence, some one we see when we return home from work, some one who shares our bed love becomes a diminishing factor and romance takes a back seat with kids and bills pilling up. To Quote Alfred Adler "we can't love and be limited". Why is it that after marriage the love, two people share becomes so miser in spending with each other .Marriage is not the end it's the beginning on a cruise of romance off course with responsibility. In the past few years of my marriage a few tips that I have gathered and would like to share it with all the love lost souls.

SHOW THE LOVE

Be very uninhibited in showing your love .This doesn't mean a De Beers diamond ring or a Caribbean holiday, but let love manifest itself, whisper in his ears the divine words when he is still in bed, write small notes of love to her on her kitchen cabinet that will make her day .SMS her just let her know that you are thinking about her. Slip in a small note with a kiss in his lunch box. Even though you may not be Madonna or Elvis prisely still to record a love number, put it his car CD player. Just many little but heartfelt ways to show you care.

TOUCH

Plato once said "Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet." .In any relationship touch is as essential as sunlight .A child who walks into this knows his mother by her touch and can recognizes her mother among thousands just with one touch. Touch is a powerful tool in romance. Hold her hand as you shop or walk down to the mall. Hug her when she brings you your bed tea .Kiss him Goodnight. Just snuggle and cuddle on the couch watching TV. Don't limit the touch to the bedroom; bring it out off course not outrageously but in a shuttle romance reminiscent of your early days of marriage when you couldn't get your hand off her.

SURPRISE

In any romance surprises always seem to rekindle the most thawed of love stories. You can ask your mother to baby sit your kids, arrange for a musical evening with your love whisk him away from office. Lingerie always works to wake them up so shop for some satin indulgence, flaunt yourself and

Believe me you need not be a drop dead diva. In the middle of the night take him for a drive, to the palace you first met and propose to him. Get him a new set of underpants and write naughty little gestures signed by you Whacky! Surprises but it works.

APPRECIATE

In most marriages after a couple of years the partners see more of de-merits in there spouse than merits. Habits that they once felt were Charming become a curse. And that is when life becomes miserable, self esteem problems set in .one must always understand that when you love someone you must learn to love him/her just the way they are ,when you try to change the person to your own whims and fancies then you don't love you are trying to strike a deal a conditional love . Which will not stand the tide of time? So love her the way she is, appreciate her, notice her new pair of earrings or just the shade of her lipstick .The same goes for the lady my husband has very scanty hair so when ever he had a haircut I always failed to notice and he always questioned me don't you see any change and very abruptly I use to say no, but off late I have felt that men love the attention when you notice and appreciate even small minor details as a hair cut.

But, all said and done the romance in marriage depends on the two partners times may be tough, responsibilities will surely beckon, but always remember some one you love is waiting for you .Dont be frightened even though you have to inciate the process.Marraige without romance is just like soup without salt. Love has no season and needs no reason .